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02 January 2017

Old life, new life: entrances and exits

Dreams come and go. Some are forgotten, others remain. The practical side says, "You must do this, you must do that," but the dreams that hold on say something else:

You can leave an old life and begin a new one.

This is more than hope. It's a kind of vision composed of past moments in which the cup of joy is filled to the brim.

Nothing in this universe can wipe out those memories forever.

They come back.

And when they do, they bring energy, belief, and confidence.

A person can refuse to see the suggestions and the implications, he can pretend he's merely floating in a brief reverie, and he can then trample on through the garden and continue his way to a bleak outpost. But still he doesn't entirely forget.

Because he doesn't want to.

The memories are distillations of the best of the past, and they point to a new future.

The shape of that future may be vague, but the emotions and sensations are vivid.

These feelings can rise again, if one can discover what actions will recover them. Actions, which taken together, create the substance of the years ahead.

For a baby learning what this world is, there is no tangible past. His entire thrust is discovering delight. Which reminds us that the psyche, the spirit, wants joy, naturally---and if unimpeded, will find it. Hour by hour, day by day.

Only much later, when the baby has "grown up," does he realize he has left something behind.

Then, unfortunately, he comes to believe he can't go back. He comes to believe that some rigid set of principles should be his North Star: through this compass setting, the best of what is possible will be his, given that limits are more important than possibilities.

But every human knows, in a part of himself that is often shielded from sight, that possibilities ring more true than limits.

When a small child paints a picture, no matter what it looks like, he can tell you a story about it. And he invests this story with a vision that is more powerful, in some mysterious way, than all of society.

Centuries from now, when historians look back on this time, no matter what they find, they will still need this lesson. They will need to know that in the soul of every person, there are colors of visions which, when acted upon, make new lives, new delight, joy, ecstasy. And the alternative is always less.

The simple compounding of these lessers, without the need for mathematical sophistication, explains the root cause of the decline of civilizations.

December 31, 2016

28 November 2012

Your creative powers will be channelled into purposeful creations for the good of all

SaLuSa  (28 November 2012)

As you are realising, very few of the long standing predictions for this year have come true and it has been very much a normal year. There is always much happening of a physical nature which goes largely unreported. So it is nice to report that little has happened, that could fulfil the expectations of those preparing for major upheavals and catastrophes. You can take much credit for the outcome, as the vibrations of the Earth have been considerably lifted to what the were just a few years ago. The amount of Light attracted to the Earth has lessened the need for more energetic cleansing. We of the Galactic Federation have also helped by also taking part in the cleansing, and generally preventing pollution from becoming worse. That also includes Chemtrails which had the potential to seriously affect all forms of life.

Now your path through the final few weeks of duality should pass quite peacefully, allowing you to concentrate on your preparations for Ascension. The best advice is to keep calm and peaceful, and do not let anything distract you from your focus on it. You will be making history by being one that is actually on Earth to experience everything associated with Ascension. The old vibrations will no longer be able to interfere with your evolution, and in there place will be heightened vibrations that will lift you up. Most of you should register some pleasant reactions to the changes, although for some they will be difficult to assimilate. A total frequency change is naturally far reaching, and all life forms will be affected to some degree.

Dramatic changes will follow Ascension, many of which you should have already experienced. However all will happen in good time, but in quick time to give you the advancements that should have already commenced, but for the stalling tactics of the dark Ones. The dark Ages with all of their limitations will be replaced by one that sees you uplifted in so many ways, and brings the people of your civilization together in mutual love and respect for each other. All past differences will be set aside, to bring you close together in loving co-operation and unity. That will no longer be difficult to achieve as the false barriers placed between you, will fall away as trust replaces the fears created to keep you apart.

You can start now to become your real self, by being outgoing and loving and able to express your true feelings. For too long you have been bound by fear of what others may think of you, that you have even hesitated to show your natural love for others. Find the inner child within you heart that knows not of your doubts and caution, but glories in being able to freely share its Light and Love. You have been moulded into what you think of as yourself, by selective training all through your upbringing. You are being set free to share your enjoyment of life with all others. In the future no one will be offended by a show of love and it will become a quite natural way of greeting each other, as you are all One.

Yes, the meek shall inherit the Earth, and those who have caused so much trouble with their deliberate wars of death and destruction, will be removed from your midst. Only the gentle and loving souls shall remain to enjoy a happy and joyful life, such as they have not known in duality. You have proved that you are mighty souls with hearts of gold, and all will recognize you as ascended Beings. Your creative powers will be channelled into purposeful creations for the good of all. Hitherto, you have not realised how powerful you really are, and have not been in control of your abilities. Do not worry however as with Ascension your increase in levels of consciousness will change all of that.

You are co-creators with God, and your service to others will take you all over the Universe. You will have unique qualities resulting from your varied experiences in duality. You will be looked upon as the Masters of Light, and  help other emerging civilizations to evolve. However, that time lays somewhat ahead of where you are now, but you will be drawn to serve others in that way. You have had a long and arduous journey, but have gained much that is greatly admired by us. You will take your place along side us equals, and many of you will choose to join the Federation. You know enough about us now to make such decisions, and our comments apply equally to both male and female. In that respect unlike now, you will both be balanced in the two energies, and the differences in them will be hardly noticeable.

In spite of the turmoil in your world at present the prospect of peace remains very real. It is being approached at the highest level, and the response is encouraging. It is removal of the fear of the big powers that holds smaller countries back, but we can easily maintain the peace once an agreement is reached to disarm. Peace is an absolute must if you are to enter the higher dimensions, as it will not support the low vibrations of the threat of war. Together with the moves to achieve governmental changes that are also proceeding, dramatic changes will occur that will change the whole face of your civilization. Then you can add disclosure, and matters will be able to go forward with all speed. These events are not far away at all, and our allies are working very hard to bring them to fruition.

We clearly place a great deal of importance on disclosure, as it is a means of bringing us together and entering a relationship that is necessary for your progress. More importantly is our part in overseeing the vast changes to your society, and helping your big commercial companies handle the changes affecting them. There have to changes that reflect the need for smaller groups rather than monopolies, and adjustments to new ways of working. You will see that in future business will be on an open basis, so that everyone will know what is taking place and that it is operating on honest and just principles. That should be easy as those criminal elements that exist in your society now will have been removed.

I am SaLuSa from Sirius, and want you to remove your focus from the past, and give your energy to the new in accordance with your expectations. That way you will help bring it in much quicker, and also be more prepared for what will take place. We are with you Dear Ones, and it will always be so. 

Thank you SaLuSa. 
Mike Quinsey.

17 November 2012

We notice a great upturn in the amount of Light upon the Earth

We notice a great upturn in the amount of Light upon the Earth, and that is to your credit and dedication to have brought so much to it. To some the energies are proving to be too powerful and disorientating. However, as they learn what is actually taking place, they may be able to flow with the energies and experience a higher degree of consciousness. They may otherwise experience feelings of impending change, without being able to determine what is happening. Whatever happens to them be assured that like everyone else, they will take something positive away with them. As we have often stated, every experience is of value to you where your evolution is concerned.

Memories of unpleasant experiences will eventually fade completely into the background of your consciousness, and in time be forgotten. Often the only thing that keeps them in your minds, is the pain and distress experienced but once in the higher vibrations you will cease to bring them back. The energies of Love are the most powerful in existence, and as you will find can create "miracles" particularly in healing which many of you have a great interest in. After Ascension your abilities to create and heal will be enhanced, and at the same time you will be assisted by the hardening out of the City of Light, Sedona. It will become a Mecca where thousands come for healing of the mind, spirit and soul. In reality there are millions of people that need some form of healing and help in other ways, and it is why the other 12 Cities of Light will soon follow on. Do not worry that your needs will be overlooked, as we know all of you quite well and no one will miss out.

We monitor the rising levels of consciousness and they are absolutely speeding up at an incredible rate. That is what we like to see, as it is opening more hearts and minds as to what is going on, after all you may be individual souls but you are also part of a group consciousness. We do not see you reaching critical mass yet, but know it is an indication of how near you are to it. We talk not about the numbers of souls involved, but the quality and level of the energies of those who are near to ascending. If they are ready there is nothing to stop individual souls ascending before the 21st, December. The vast majority of you are in readiness to ascend with Mother Earth, and what an experience that will prove to be. Many souls wished to experience it that way, so Dear Ones consider yourselves privileged to have been amongst those chosen to take part in it.

Some of you are feeling as though you are in a dream state, and that your feet are not firmly on the ground. That feeling will pass as you get used to experiencing the higher vibrations. As a result you are becoming more powerful Light Beings and you are helping other souls rise up. It is beautiful to see such a lot of interchange of energies, and we encourage a free giving of them to whoever you meet or pass by. A smile or warm greeting is sufficient to open another souls heart, and a handshake or hug a powerful exchange of energies. It is time to recognize the Light in everyone, and see beyond the outer covering. Some ask what can I do to spread the Light, so we have given  some simple everyday things that you can.

Another useful exercise that will also spread the Light is being open about your beliefs, without being overpowering as otherwise people will switch off. Plant the seeds that will lead to a growth in their consciousness, because as the changes place they will have many unanswered questions in their minds. Between now and Ascension we will endeavor to open up new channels of information for you, as we wish to avoid misinformation being spread as the truth. You still need to be discerning because of it, but anyone with a reasonable degree of progress should be sufficiently intuitive now to know what to accept. You make many decisions based on intuition, and that is the best way to move forward at such an important time.

We wish you to start focusing more on the future and what it holds for you, rather than the turmoil resulting from the 3D changes. Naturally for many it is becoming an uncomfortable time, and more so for those who do not yet understand why it is happening. Whatever way you look at it there is so little time left that nothing unpleasant will have to be withstood for very long. So offset it by giving it as little of your attention as possible. Think New Age and all of the benefits that it will give you, and your release from the trials and tribulations of duality. Remind yourself that you are serving out your last life in the 3rd. dimension, and in future will have no death to anticipate or experience. It is you who will decide when you want to move on, and simply lay down your body and pass on to your next life, and that will be your choice.

You will find that you eventually live a life where all is in abundance, and that everything is freely available so that no money changes hands. Because of your experience in your present dimension, one thing that will be difficult to comprehend is that virtually all of your time will be your own. However do not worry that you will not find enough to do, as there are far more opportunities in the higher dimensions than on Earth. In the back of your mind may also be a strong thought that you would like to serve others, and many groups and organizations exist for that purpose. The Universe is vast with millions of galaxies that include civilizations similar to your own, needing help to evolve.
Nearer home, within your own galaxy many like yours are also present.

I am sure you are intrigued by our skin tight space outfits, that we "dress" ourselves in through the power of thought. If they get soiled or damaged the fabric as you may call it, can put it right through its own level of consciousness. Much is designed that way so it needs no attention from us. Indeed, our organic computers are so programmed that they are completely self functioning, and have greater levels of consciousness than we do. This is where you get to after 1000's years living in the higher dimensions. So believe us when we say that we can handle anything connected with your Ascension. All will proceed as planned, and continue well after Ascension as you benefit from the new energies. We have the priorities sorted out and will have them attended to in no time at all.

I am SaLuSa from Sirius, and leave you with love beaming out to you all.

Thank you SaLuSa.

Neither The Moral Nor The Immoral Know Love

The process of thought ever denies love. It is thought that has emotional complications, not love. Thought is the greatest hindrance to love. Thought creates a division between what is and what should be, and on this division morality is based; but neither the moral nor the immoral know love. This moral structure, created by the mind to hold social relationships together, is not love, but a hardening process like that of cement. Thought does not lead to love, thought does not cultivate love, for love cannot be cultivated as a plant in the garden. The very desire to cultivate love is the action of thought.
(Commentaries on Living, Series I",16,Choiceless Awareness)

Heavenly Human Love

Dr. Mark Sircus, Ac., OMD, DM (P)
Director International Medical Veritas Association
Doctor of Oriental and Pastoral Medicine

Love is the heavenly force that binds all as one, two as one, three as one and so on. Human loves are absolutely necessary as steps toward the divine. Love is the power that closes the circuit between beings. There is nothing more beautiful than true love,nothing more needed, nothing more hoped for.

Love is what life is all about. It is not always love that leads to the creation of more life but love is what holds us together and gives us strength to face life’s challenges. I write about medicine because I love to and because it is my mission and purpose to communicate with others about what is important in life.

The healthy human heart needs warmth, is warmth and can give warmth to others. The deeper we dive into the heart and open to its super intelligent ways, the more balanced, coherent,and healthy our bodies, minds, and emotions become.

Whatever our heart loves it has the will for. This connection between heart and will offers us a clue to the “secret” forces at work in our ability to resist disease or recover from illness quickly. The heart is at the center of more than we can dream of, yet it is a factor that is not at all understood or even recognized by contemporary psychiatric or medical theory. It is the abandonment of the seat of feelings, the repression and denial of the heart that is at the center of much illness and disease.

The heart center is where we experience our being. The distance we travel away from our own heart and true being is the same distance we travel away from the happiness of our health.

It might take time for modern science, medicine, and psychology to understand and believe it, but the heart is at the center of much of the mysteries that have confounded rational thinkers for millenniums. When we say that the heart is the vulnerability of being we are making a direct connection between what we are calling the heart and our pure being.

Grace is the flow of pure heart energy. It heals, enlightens and warms us. It touches us where we need to be touched.

There is a quality of heart and pure being that can be called grace. The grace of the heart offers us a quality of being that is healing, animating, invigorating, supporting, nurturing, and comforting. The grace of the heart offers an inner tranquility and peace that the mind by itself rarely possesses. The essence of the heart is love, light and health. It represents our being nature and that nature is given to us by the cosmic intelligence with these highly positive qualities. Yet it does seem that some people’s hearts are so small that they seem not to exist at all. Somehow man through his society, religion, laws and politics has found a way to almost completely squash the universe of heart, love, being and soul.
Love & Listening

I have defined love as communication and listening so I love to do both. I love my wife more than the moon, sun and stars put together and I love that my kids are strong and healthy. Most people I meet seem to have given up on the full tides of love that I wrote so much about 18 years ago in “The Marriage of Souls.”

Listening is the ecology of being; it opens the doorway to the heart.Listening creates trust between beings; listening creates love.

Nothing shows off the quality of our love better than our listening skills and in essence listening is what keeps people together. People who listen to each other end up wanting to be and stay together, for nothing connects us better than our listening to each other’s world of feelings and experience. Listening is love and love is listening; they are qualities of being that reflect each other perfectly. Love does not exist in human relationships without deep listening and yet we delude ourselves all the time about this, for profound listening is something with which few people have either experience or training.

Wherever you find a poverty of communication you will find a poverty of love, and wherever you find a poverty of love you will find a poverty of deep listening.

I think we are confused about love, measuring it too much by the Romeo and Juliet type of stories we see all the time on television and in the movies. There are some essential things to love and life that modern people tend to skip over and that has mostly to do with our unwillingness to be vulnerable. There is a lot of scar tissue surrounding the deepest issues of one’s vulnerability and a lot of that begins but does not end with sexual issues.

One healthcare practitioner put it this way. “When I finally had the courage to speak my truth in my own clinic, I found that many of my female patients had been sexually abused during their childhood and teenage years, some of them into their 20s. Those who had not addressed their violent past found themselves having insecure and unequal relationships with men. This realization gave me clarification as to why I felt so passionate about becoming a healer for my profession.”

Intimacy, love, touch, and sexuality are all issues that have great bearing on the heart nature of our being self. There is much more truth to the fact that we are beings rather than simple mechanical machines.

It would be helpful if people were taught basic listening and communication skills in school but governments do not favor too much open honest communication, so that is not modeled in schools. In fact governments are not in favor of too much love; instead they are hell bent on stealing and lying and doing other evil because they simply cannot help themselves. That is why the model of big government will never work for human beings unless it’s an evil system that enforces itself on the masses.
Love of Freedom

One thing that love loves is freedom and that is, in the end, not what government is about. Certainly a government does now want its citizens to be free from itself so hopefully you can see how deep this rabbit hole goes. Recently there has been a tidal wave of petitions to the federal government for freedom in this regard, petitions of secessions flooding the White House. All governments are like cancer, they start out from regular cells (people) who start governments but they grow and expand until they first enslave and then kill the host (themselves and the society they are supposed to serve.)

The freest people have to free themselves even from the herd aspect of society because so much of mainstream thought is erroneous, untrue and has been heavily injected into the mass consciousness by selfish interests.

I love life and the afterlife does not threaten me, but I am attached to sticking around for as long as possible because of my love for my wife and children.

To listen is to suffer because we do not want to listen to anything that might require a change. To listen is to change. We cannot change without listening. Listening implies a change. We need to change just to listen.- HeartHealth

Love answers love, likes attract. Few know though that the crucial key to finding pure love is found in our willingness and ability to be vulnerable. To treasure vulnerable love is the first law of a pure heart.

It is love that will keep us while governments try to control us. Love is always there ready to be nourished by us but the needed watering requires a commitment. I am not talking about casual love or romantic love; I am talking about a divine romance with love itself. No matter how dark the clouds become, we can identify with love itself, with our souls and spirits, but this in no way means we can cop out of our responsibilities as a human being in a social sense.

In “The Marriage of Souls,” oneness and individuality find themselves under the same roof, in the same house, inside the nuclear furnace that burns deep in the center of all our hearts and souls. The essence of this entire deep love is found in the spirit of togetherness and in discovering how humans separate from each other and healing this split. Beings who have lived beyond the walls of separation know of this union and deep pure love that binds souls together as one. Eventually we need to see how our ideas and concepts and notions of holiness and spirituality separate being from being and cause pain, suffering and conflict even in our close relationships with others. Through this kind of work and effort we will find a heaven that can be shared. Instead of concentrating so obsessively with our individual minds and selfish selves, we work to enter heaven together.

Bliss is for those who love each other, flowing into each other, feeding each other, ever part of one life. This interconnection in perfect union strengthens our tendency to be unselfish. The Marriage of Souls is about creating heaven on earth together.

The only place I published my early writings on love and “The Marriage of Souls” was in my Survival Medicine compendium. I love to publish about love and I will start to publish a lot about sex once I can begin the process of finishing my book on breast and prostate cancer.

The marriage vows of The Marriage of Souls:
To love for now and forever the essence of your true being. To always be open to communicate and receive each other vulnerably, to not control or possess, but to grow and to change, to hold and let go. To always encourage the creation of more love even if it is between others and those we already love.

13 July 2012

Pleasure is the structure of society

Pleasure is the structure of society. From childhood until death we are secretly, cunningly, or obviously pursuing pleasure. So, whatever our form of pleasure is, I think we should be very clear about it because it is going to guide and shape our lives. It is, therefore, important for each one of us to investigate closely, hesitantly, and delicately this question of pleasure, for to find pleasure and then nourish and sustain it is a basic demand of life and, without it, existence becomes dull, stupid, lonely, and meaningless.

You must ask, why then should life not be guided by pleasure? For the very simple reason that pleasure must bring pain, frustration, sorrow, and fear and, out of fear, violence. If you want to live that way, live that way most of the world does anyway, but if you want to be free from sorrow you must understand the whole structure of pleasure.

To understand pleasure is not to deny it. We are not condemning it or saying it is right or wrong; but, if we pursue it, let us do so with our eyes open, knowing that a mind that is all the time seeking pleasure must inevitably find its shadow, pain.
Now, why is the mind always demanding pleasure? Why is it that we do noble and ignoble things with the undercurrent of pleasure? Why is it we sacrifice and suffer on the thin thread of pleasure? What is pleasure, and how does it come into being? (JKrishnamurti, Freedom from the Known,34)

Real Women Want Dominant Men


Last month, in response to my "Hidden Knowledge of Heterosexuality," Jacqueline, 61, from Holland wrote: I have a partner almost 16 years younger than I am, of North African descent, who totally is the "Boss" and I love it. He really makes me feel like a woman and treats me very well. Most European men are not real men."

I invited her to expand.

I love being the partner of a dominant man. That to me is a real "turn-on".

by Jacqueline

What is a real woman and what does it mean to be a real woman?

Let me begin by saying that I'm a woman with a strong character, who knows what she wants; and what I want is a real man.

A real woman intuitively knows/feels what her man wants/needs. A real woman is never a slave. She takes care he is comfortable and feels relaxed. She never denies him sex or uses sex as a bribe to get what she wants. She loves to be loved and wanted. She also knows when to " shut up."

A real woman is confident about herself and has no need to pretend to be someone she is not. She knows WHO she is.

What is a real man and what does it mean to be a real man?

Many men pretend to be real men while in fact they are not. They're the kind of men I would definitely not like to share my life with. I'd rather be alone than having to live with a "wannabe" real man.

A real man has this natural dominance which is very attractive and even sexy to a real woman.

Non-real women do not like this at all in a man. They want a "Wuss" they can boss about.

A real man never bullies or bosses his partner about. He has a natural and gentle way of letting a woman know what he wants and expect from her. In return he will take good care of her and keep her safe and satisfied. Above all, he loves her.

Together a real man and a real woman are a strong couple.

Everyone encounters problems in life but the way one solves them shows who you are. Does one run away from problems or does one face and solve them? Facing and solving is always the best solution, at least to me it is.

Dutch "Men"

To me Dutch men are totally unattractive, most of them are wannabe "real men" . I prefer men of Arab descent.

Of course, there are nice Dutch men but they do not possess that natural masculinity North African and the Near Eastern men have, nor do they have this natural dominance which is so attractive and sexy to a woman like me. It's a very exciting and thrilling sensation which makes you want him all over you!

I've never met a Dutch man who was an authentic man. They are dull; in bed they are a disaster, oops! They believe or rather pretend to be real man because they beat up their wives or girlfriends. When you give a type like that some lip, you'll be having a thick lip literally.

Dutch men are so totally unattractive: they drink too much. Yuck, sorry but I'm very picky when it comes to a relationship.

I thank God for having found such a wonderful young man on my path. I have never been happier in my life. I wish that every real woman would/could find such a wonderful and gentle man as he.

My "Wimp" of the year is our Prime Minister Mark Rutte. He's not married; you never see him with a woman; nor with a man. He has dinner with his mother weekly. Many people wonder whether he is gay or not. Some people even wonder (joke) whether he even has a d*ck. Oh yeah, he laughs everything away. He's a flip-flopper. He speaks with two tongues; in Dutch Parliament he says this and with regard to the European Parliament he says that. And in the meantime our economy is going down the drain.

How am I able to attract a much younger man?

First of all, I look younger than I am. People call me attractive and sexy. As a spiritual human being, my inside shows on the outside. The fact I'm 1.59 m and curvy seems to add to the attraction. My age (61) is and never has been an issue. My man is 44 years old.

Most important to me however is, a man is attracted to WHO I am and not WHAT I am.

Besides physical attraction, there also is mental attraction. We both love discussions about a variety of subjects, life in general, politics, history, music, the "Crisis" (who doesn't these days!) and more. We have the same taste with regard to music and movies. We both love reading. He reads French literature; I read Japanese literature.

When it comes to sex, it's the best ever. There are no taboos in the bedroom. When having sex we are like one body, a unity of two souls. To me it's one of the most beautiful and emotional experiences I have. I've never had and felt that before.

So actually, the attraction is physical, emotional, spiritual and mental and that is something one doesn't find very often in life.

Furthermore, I'm an excellent cook, that adds to the attraction too! Chinese, Japanese, Moroccan, Indonesian, Italian, French, I love it.

Holland Today

On my mother's side, I am part French; dad was full blood Dutch. Some people think I'm Moroccan; others think I'm from the Caribbean, France or Eastern Europe. I was born in Holland. From age 7 up till 17 I lived in Africa, Nigeria and Liberia. I lived in the US for a while.

I did not know much about Holland untill the end of 1967 when I returned to Holland at age 17.

Women's Liberation was a big issue in those days. They were allowed to work while being married. That wasn't allowed in the 50's. When a woman got married, she had to give up her work and be a stay at home wife/mother. My mother was one of them. In the 70's, it was normal for a married woman to have a job too. Plenty of day care centers for the children in those days.

Since the end of the 80's, society has changed completely. Men are no longer the sole bread-winner. Often these days, a woman makes more money than her husband. Very often the woman works and dad takes care of the kid(s).

Society has also become more aggressive. The "crisis" is not helping either.

Politically everything sucks too. We have this extreme right politician Geert Wilders who is trying to divide people instead of bringing them together.

Too many political parties to really make a fist to solve the crisis. We the people deserve better politicians.

22 February 2012

Acts of Love

By Chris Hedges

February 20, 2012 "TruthDig" --- Love, the deepest human commitment, the force that defies empirical examination and yet is the defining and most glorious element in human life, the love between two people, between children and parents, between friends, between partners, reminds us of why we have been created for our brief sojourns on the planet. Those who cannot love—and I have seen these deformed human beings in the wars and conflicts I covered—are spiritually and emotionally dead. They affirm themselves through destruction, first of others and then, finally, of themselves. Those incapable of love never live.

“Hell,” Dostoevsky wrote, “is the inability to love.”

And yet, so much is written and said about love that at once diminishes its grandeur and trivializes its meaning. Dr. James Luther Adams, my ethics professor at Harvard Divinity School, cautioned all of us about preaching on love, reminding us that any examination of love had to include, as Erich Fromm pointed out in “Selfishness and Self-Love,” the unmasking of pseudo-love.

God is a verb rather than a noun. God is a process rather than an entity. There is some biblical justification for this. God, after all, answered Moses’ request for revelation with the words, “I AM WHO I AM.” This phrase is probably more accurately translated “I WILL BE WHAT I WILL BE.” God seems to be saying to Moses that the reality of the divine is an experience. God comes to us in the profound flashes of insight that cut through the darkness, in the hope that permits human beings to cope with inevitable despair and suffering, in the healing solidarity of kindness, compassion and self-sacrifice, especially when this compassion allows us to reach out to others, and not only others like us, but those defined by our communities as strangers, as outcasts. “I WILL BE WHAT I WILL BE.” This reality, the reality of the eternal, must be grounded in that which we cannot touch, see or define, in mystery, in a kind of faith in the ultimate worth of compassion, even when the reality of the world around us seems to belittle compassion as futile.

“The courage to be is rooted in the God who appears when God has disappeared in the anxiety of doubt,” wrote Paul Tillich.

Aristotle said that only two living entities are capable of solitude and complete separateness: God and beast. The most acute form of human suffering is loneliness. The isolated human individual can never be fully human. And for those cut off from others, for those alienated from the world around them, the false covenants of race, nationalism, the glorious cause, class and gender compete, with great seduction, against the covenant of love. These sham covenants—and we see them dangled before us daily—are based on exclusion and hatred rather than universality. These sham covenants do not call us to humility and compassion, to an acknowledgement of our own imperfections, but to a form of self-exaltation disguised as love. Those most able to defy these sham covenants are those who are grounded in love, those who find their meaning and worth in intimate relationships that cut through the loneliness and isolation of the human condition.

There are few sanctuaries in war. Couples in love provide one. And it was to such couples that I consistently retreated. These couples repeatedly acted to save those branded as the enemy—Muslims trapped in Serb enclaves in Bosnia or dissidents hunted by the death squads in El Salvador. These rescuers did not act as individuals. Nechama Tec documented this peculiar reality when she studied Polish rescuers of Jews during World War II. Tec did not find any particular character traits or histories that led people to risk their lives for others, often for people they did not know, but she did find they almost always acted because their relationship explained to them the world around them. Love kept them grounded. These couples were not able to halt the destruction and violence around them. They were powerless. They could and often did themselves become victims. But it was with them, seated in a concrete hovel in a refugee camp in Gaza or around a wood stove on a winter night in the hills outside Sarajevo, that I found sanity and peace, that I was reminded of what it means to be human. It seemed it was only in such homes that I ever truly slept during war.

Love, when it is deep and sustained by two individuals, includes self-giving—often tremendous self-sacrifice—as well as desire. For the covenant of love recognizes both the fragility and sanctity of all human beings. It recognizes itself in the other. And it alone can save us, especially from ourselves.

Sigmund Freud divided the forces in human nature between the Eros instinct, the impulse within us that propels us to become close to others, to preserve and conserve, and the Thanatos, or death instinct, the impulse that works toward the annihilation of all living things, including ourselves. For Freud these forces were in eternal conflict. All human history, he argued, is a tug of war between these two instincts.

“The meaning of the evolution of civilization is no longer obscure to us,” Freud wrote in “Civilization and Its Discontents.” “It must present the struggle between Eros and Death, between the instinct of life and instinct of destruction, as it works itself out in the human species. This struggle is what all life essentially consists of.”

We are tempted, indeed in a consumer culture encouraged, to reduce life to a simple search for happiness. Happiness, however, withers if there is no meaning. The other temptation is to disavow the search for happiness in order to be faithful to that which provides meaning. But to live only for meaning—indifferent to all happiness—makes us fanatic, self-righteous and cold. It leaves us cut off from our own humanity and the humanity of others. We must hope for grace, for our lives to be sustained by moments of meaning and happiness, both equally worthy of human communion. And it is this grace, this love, which in our darkest moments allows us to endure.

Viktor Frankl in “Man’s Search for Meaning” grappled with Eros and Thanatos in the Auschwitz death camp. He recalled being on a work detail, freezing in the blast of the Polish winter, when he began to think about his wife, who had already been gassed by the Nazis although he did not know it at the time.

“A thought transfixed me,” he wrote, “for the first time in my life I saw the truth as it is set down by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth—that love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which man can aspire. Then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief have to impart. The salvation of man is through love and in love.”

Love is an action, a difference we try to make in the world.
“We love our enemy when we love his or her ultimate meaning,” professor Adams told us. “We may have to struggle against what the enemy stands for; we may not feel a personal affinity or passion for him. Yet we are commanded for this person’s sake and for our own and for the sake of the destiny of creation, to love that which should unite us.”

To love that which should unite us requires us to believe there is something that connects us all, to know that at some level all of us love and want to be loved, to base all our actions on the sacred covenant of love, to know that love is an act of will, to refuse to exclude others because of personal difference or race or language or ethnicity or religion. It is easier to be indifferent. It is tempting to hate. Hate propels us to the lust for power, for control, to the Hobbesian nightmare of an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. Hate is what people do when they are distressed, as many Americans are now, by uncertainty and fear. If you hate others they will soon hate or fear you. They will reject you. Your behavior assures it. And through hate you become sucked into the sham covenants of the nation, the tribe, and you begin to speak in the language of violence, the language of death.

Love is not selflessness. It is the giving of one’s best self, giving one’s highest self unto the world. It is finding true selfhood. Selflessness is martyrdom, dying for a cause. Selfhood is living for a cause. It is choosing to create good in the world. To love another as one loves oneself is to love the universal self that unites us all. If our body dies, it is the love that we have lived that will remain—what the religious understand as the soul—as the irreducible essence of life. It is the small, inconspicuous things we do that reveal the pity and beauty and ultimate power and mystery of human existence.

Vasily Grossman wrote in his masterpiece “Life and Fate”:

My faith has been tempered in Hell. My faith has emerged from the flames of the crematoria, from the concrete of the gas chamber. I have seen that it is not man who is impotent in the struggle against evil, but the power of evil that is impotent in the struggle against man. The powerlessness of kindness, of senseless kindness, is the secret of its immortality. It can never be conquered. The more stupid, the more senseless, the more helpless it may seem, the vaster it is. Evil is impotent before it. The prophets, religious leaders, reformers, social and political leaders are impotent before it. This dumb, blind love is man’s meaning. Human history is not the battle of good struggling to overcome evil. It is a battle fought by a great evil struggling to crush a small kernel of human kindness. But if what is human in human beings has not been destroyed even now, then evil will never conquer.

To survive as a human being is possible only through love. And, when Thanatos is ascendant, the instinct must be to reach out to those we love, to see in them all the divinity, pity and pathos of the human. And to recognize love in the lives of others, even those with whom we are in conflict—love that is like our own. It does not mean we will avoid suffering or death. It does not mean that we as distinct individuals will survive. But love, in its mystery, has its own power. It alone gives us meaning that endures. It alone allows us to embrace and cherish life. Love has the power both to resist in our nature what we know we must resist and to affirm what we know we must affirm.

Chris Hedges, whose column is published Mondays on Truthdig, spent nearly two decades as a foreign correspondent in Central America, the Middle East, Africa and the Balkans. He has reported from more than 50 countries and has worked for The Christian Science Monitor, National Public Radio, The Dallas Morning News and The New York Times, for which he was a foreign correspondent for 15 years.

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28 April 2011

A Passionate Mind is Inquiring

Obviously there must be passion, and the question is how to revive that passion. Do not let us misunderstand each other. I mean passion in every sense, not merely sexual passion, which is a very small thing. And most of us are satisfied with that because every other passion has been destroyed-in the office, in the factory, through following a certain job, routine, learning techniques- so there is no passion left; there is no creative sense of urgency and release. Therefore sex becomes important to us, and there we get lost in petty passion which becomes an enormous problem to the narrow, virtuous mind, or else it soon becomes a habit and dies. I am using the word passion as a total thing. 

A passionate man who feels strongly is not satisfied merely with some little job, whether it be the job of a prime minister, or of a cook, or what you will. A mind that is passionate is inquiring, searching, looking, asking, demanding, not merely trying to find for its discontent some object in which it can fulfill itself and go to sleep. A passionate mind is groping, seeking, breaking through, not accepting any tradition; it is not a decided mind, not a mind that has arrived, but it is a young mind that is ever arriving.
(The Book of Life)

30 November 2010

Promiscuity & The Death of Love

Why women today are losing the ability to love, and how men must adjust.

by Henry Makow Ph.D.
If a young woman today said she was saving her virginity for her husband, she'd be considered hopelessly old fashioned. She'd be treated with disdain, as polite society treated a whore 100 years ago.

This is a measure of the triumph of Satanism, the "religion" of the modern world, which lurks behind secularism. Not coincidentally, virgins also had to hide their purity in Bolshevik Russia.

The defining characteristic of civilization is the consecration of sex to marriage, or at the very least, love and courtship. Marriage and family are the red blood cells of a healthy society and the basis for procreation.

Satanists understand this very well. That's why they used "sexual liberation," to undermine humanity. As Giuseppe Mazzini said,  "we corrupt in order to conquer."

They are like the devil. Corruption is a form of conquest. Enslavement can take the form of addiction, to sex or drugs or alcohol. 

Any animal can have anonymous sex. It is human to form a permanent loving bond and raise children properly. This is why Satanists use free love to attack marriage.  


The more sexual partners a young woman has, the less she is able to love a man. A woman's love must be exclusive. It must be focused on her husband, the father of her children. She must preserve her soul for him. That's what her body represents. By becoming a sexual free agent, she loses the ability to love.  

For a woman, sex is an act of self-sacrifice and surrender. By definition, it requires trust, i.e. love and devotion to one man.  When she has casual sex, inevitably she is disappointed and feels used. She starts to hate men and falls victim to feminism and lesbianism.

When men were required to get married in order to have sex, women were courted and loved. Later, they were honored for their contribution as wife and mother. Far from protecting "women's rights," feminism has left them twisting in the wind. 

The separation of sex from marriage, i.e. "sexual liberation," is one of the principle ways satanism has killed love.   

Wanton sex has become a substitute for love. Young women now market themselves as sex partners, not wives and mothers.  Men are also trained to seek sex. What I say about women may apply to young men too. 

"Homosexual rights" is designed to make heterosexuals behave like homosexuals. Very few homosexuals marry. Very few have children. This is the model the elite envisages for mankind.

The Illuminati want us to be isolated, alienated and tractable.

A woman who is saving herself for marriage should be commended. She is resisting social pressure ( i.e. social engineering ) and obeying her instincts instead.


Through the mass media, the Illuminati brainwash us to think romantic love and sex are a universal panacea that can replace religion (God.) 

How many movies and songs are based on the assumption that some perfect person is going to give us our self? Woody Allen is 75 and he's still chasing this romantic chimera in his movies. This is arrested development.   

People aren't meant to be loved as though they were perfect. No one is. Only God is perfect and that is where our love should be directed. As you know, I define God in terms of spiritual ideals such as truth, justice, goodness and beauty.

Especially now when fewer men and women are capable of love, we need to focus on loving God and, especially, on God's love for us.

The Illuminati have done a good job of discrediting God. He is the positive force behind Creation. He represents the inherent moral and natural design. By adhering to this design, we will be healthy and happy.

In olden times, men chose women for their worth as helpmates. Can she cook? Milk cows? Make clothes? They had no illusions about "soul mates." Men need to look for women who are gentle and accommodating, who have skills, character, personality and make good mothers.

Avoid promiscuous women, feminists and women who are alienated from their fathers. Avoid bean counters (women who want everything to be "equal.")  

We need to take the stardust out of our eyes and realize that sex has been grossly exaggerated in importance in order to control us.

Men are attracted to most fertile women. So what? That's nature's way of making sure we procreate. We don't need to be controlled by that. 

In marriage, we are looking for a life long companion. Look at old TV shows to see the traditional picture of marriage. It's not heaven. Lucille Ball and Desi Arnez; Ralph and Alice Kramden were always comically at odds. It never gets boring. 

Marriage is a mutual security pact. A woman accepts her husband's leadership in return for his protection and love. Men want power; women want love. Marriage is the exchange of the two.  

Your spouse is nothing like you. There's going to be disagreements. It's not necessary to think alike or feel love all the time. Many women are moody. 

Just keep your bargain. Be loyal. Don't say things that will upset her.

Play your part. And over time, with mutual trust, a strong bond grows.

And if you can't find a suitable companion, you may be in luck. Thoreau, a bachelor, said, "I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude."

The Effect of Sexual Deprivation on Women

by Henry Makow Ph.D.

We live in a culture that doesn't admit that women need sex every bit as much as men, if not more.

Conservatives put women on a romantic pedestal. Women are virginal and sexless. Feminists deny women need men for anything.

"Women are made to feel guilty for needing men," my wife said. "We're portrayed as weak, co-dependent or lacking in self-esteem."

My teenage son also inculcated this message from TV: "Women don't need sex," he said. "They're just doing men a favor."

Sex and love have become horribly confused. When religion held sway, they were inseparable (i.e. marriage.)

But today "sexual liberation" has freed sex from love. It has taken love's place. Millions of men and women behave like addicts. They use sex to assuage a desperate craving for love that only love can satisfy.
An excellent independent movie, "The Business of Strangers" (2001) explores the effect feminism has had on modern women. Writer/director Patrick Stettner illustrates how American women have traded love for the sterility, banality and inhumanity of corporate culture.

This is what movies should do: Reflect modern life. Yet this brilliant movie bombed (or was torpedoed) at the box office, making less than $500,000. Fortunately, critics liked it and it is widely available on DVD.

Two women are stranded overnight at an airport hotel while on a sales trip. Stockard Channing plays "Julie Styron," successful divorced 45-ish VP Sales whose best friend is her secretary.

Julia Stiles plays Paula Murphy, a tough 25-ish "writer" who works the overhead projector.

The movie shows how career has supplanted family for women like Styron. Feminism promised that women could have both, but this did not happen.

Forty seven per cent of 40-something women with professional degrees have no children. Only 14% of these women said they didn't want children.  ("Creating a Life: Professional Life and the Quest for Children" by Sylvia Ann Hewitt)

Styron is fired without warning. But when she immediately lands an even better job as a CEO, she is strangely indifferent.


In the hotel bar with Styron, Paula  recognizes Nick Harris (left) a slick young corporate head-hunter played by Fred Weller. He is the man who raped her best friend years ago at a frat party. She lures him to Styron's suite and puts tranquilizers in his drink. 

After he passes out, the two women indulge in an orgy of hatred over his unconscious body. They undress him, cover him with obscene graffiti, smear blood and strike him. Both women clearly despise men. Murphy confides it was actually she who had suffered the rape.

However, later it emerges that Nick is a rapist in her mind only. Styron learns that he had never been to the city where the rape had supposedly taken place.

Talk about hate. Men are "rapists" because they are not giving women the love they need. The result is self-loathing and resentment against men. Feminism first makes women and men incompatible; then it exploits women's frustration and rage.

The great Sigmund Freud was unable to answer this question despite  "thirty years of research into the feminine soul."

Chaucer's "Wife of Bath" knew the answer: Woman wants to be loved. She'll do anything for love, even if she has to become a feminist.

Many Western women today are dysfunctional because they are getting contradictory messages. Society tells them to be "strong and independent," i.e. successful in a career.

But this behavior is masculine and makes men feel redundant. Men don't like these women. Thus women are doing what society tells them to do, yet are not getting the male love they expect and need.

Women are loved when they put their husband and children before themselves. It is feminine to self efface. Men love these women because they become part of them.

I am not against a woman having a career, only putting it before marriage and family.

A single friend characterized a typical date this way. He describes his work and seeks affirmation and respect. She describes her work and seeks affirmation and respect from him. They never see each other again. (They are already competing.)

This is NOT how heterosexuals mate. Women are hypergamous, which means they seek men of higher power and status. Nurses marry doctors.

On a date, a man reveals himself and his vision of life. She decides if she's interested in him or not. If she is, she affirms him by her acceptance and encouragement. In marriage, she demonstrates her love by trusting him to take care of her interests.

 He also affirms her by seeking her acceptance. Yes, he also wants her to be capable and successful. But his recognition and nurturing come later.

All successful organizations are hierarchical. The heterosexual family is male dominated. If you wanted to destroy it, you promote equality. Our culture is doing this.

It is mind-boggling but our politicians, media and educators are deliberately sabotaging society. Feminism like its Communist forebear dogmatically denies human sexual differences, such as the fact that men have 10 times the testosterone levels of women.   

There are over 900 Women's Studies Programs in the United States teaching impressionable young women to deny their femininity. According to "Issues in Feminism: An Introduction to Women's Studies" femininity is "patriarchal mind control." The "best slaves are the ones who don't even know they are slaves." Who authorized this indoctrination in lesbian dysfunction?

This vicious state-sponsored hoax is ruining millions of lives. The CIA and the Rockefeller Foundation1954 Reese Committee Report of the U.S. Congress.

Feminism is another manifestation of Communism, which was always sponsored by the international bankers and their corporate allies. Their goal is to transfer all power to a global state, which they control. By harnessing the authoritarian power of the state, Big Brother will serve Big Business.  

The stated goal of the Communist Manifesto is to destroy the nuclear family. People without stable families are easy to distract and control. Sex starved, isolated, and dysfunctional, the few children they have are also messed up. The U.S. birth rate is at the lowest point in history.


A woman's elaborate reproductive apparatus has a profound influence on her psyche. Each month she produces an egg and she is devoted to seeing that egg fertilized, then to giving birth and raising a child.

On the other hand, a woman is the fertile ground for a man's spirit to grow. First she accepts his spirit. Then she accepts his seed, from which a child grows.

Men need to be lovingly received and affirmed. Women need to be possessed and cultivated. This is wholeness. Their child symbolizes it.

When this connection is stymied, we have arrested development. Many women become angry and psychotic like Styron and Murphy. Men have become detached and selfish. Both are obsessed with sex.

The media makes women appear like remote goddesses but they are passionate sexual creatures that need committed love and direction from a man.

In a true marriage, two people become one. Each complements the other. Women's strengths should not be the same as men's and vice versa.

Independence is the big issue in feminist marriages. They are mergers, a pooling of assets designed to achieve economic and sexual synergies. The two people fail to bond and remain immature. They struggle for power and break up.


Heterosexual society has been under sustained psychological attack designed to arrest human development and decrease population. Feminism is the weapon of choice.  It encourages women to deny their femininity and act like men.

Feminine women are characterized by selflessness. They are not hunters. They are not killers. They are a little vulnerable in a worldly sense. How do men respond to them? By wanting to nurture and protect them. This is how men love. This is what women want.

In "The Business of Strangers" both women have become hunters. As a result, they hate men but worse they hate themselves. Victims of a diabolical  plot, they have mutated. They need a man's love in order to be themselves again.
Another review

30 April 2010

Desire is always there like a flame, burning

What do we mean by the problem of sex? Is it the act, or is it a thought about the act? Surely it is not the act. The sexual act is no problem to you, any more than eating is a problem to you, but if you think about eating or anything else all day long because you have nothing else to think about, it becomes a problem to you. Is the sexual act the problem or is it the thought about the act? Why do you think about it? Why do you build it up, which you are obviously doing? The cinemas, the magazines, the stories, the way women dress, everything is building up your thought of sex. Why does the mind build it up, why does the mind think about sex at all? Why? Why has it become a central issue in your life? When there are so many things calling, demanding your attention, you give complete attention to the thought of sex. What happens, why are your minds so occupied with it? Because that is a way of ultimate escape, is it not? It is a way of complete self-forgetfulness. For the time being, at least for that moment, you can forget yourself - and there is no other way of forgetting yourself. Everything else you do in life gives emphasis to the `me', to the self. Your business, your religion, your gods, your leaders, your political and economic actions, your escapes, your social activities, your joining one party and rejecting another - all that is emphasizing and giving strength to the `me'. That is there is only one act in which there is no emphasis on the `me', so it becomes a problem, does it not? When there is only one thing in your life which is an avenue to ultimate escape to complete forgetfulness of yourself if only for a few seconds, you cling to it because that is the only moment in which you are happy. Every other issue you touch becomes a nightmare, a source of suffering and pain, so you cling to the one thing which gives complete self-forgetfulness, which you call happiness. But when you cling to it, it too becomes a nightmare, because then you want to be free from it, you do not want to be a slave to it. So you invent, again from the mind, the idea of chastity, of celibacy, and you try to be celibate, to be chaste, through suppression, all of which are operations of the mind to cut itself off from the fact. This again gives particular emphasis to the `me' who is trying to become something, so again you are caught in travail, in trouble, in effort, in pain. 
(The First and Last Freedom)

Desire, which has been the driving force in man, has created a great many pleasant and useful things; desire also, in man's relationships, has created a great many problems and turmoil and misery - the desire for pleasure. The monks and the sannyasis of the world have tried to go beyond it, have forced themselves to worship an ideal, an image, a symbol. But desire is always there like a flame, burning. And to find out, to probe into the nature of desire, the complexity of desire, its activities, its demands, its fulfilments - ever more and more desire for power, position, prestige, status, the desire for the unnameable, that which is beyond all our daily life - has made man do all kinds of ugly and brutal things. Desire is the outcome of sensation the outcome with all the images that thought has built. And this desire not only breeds discontent but a sense of hopelessness. Never suppress it, never discipline it but probe into the nature of it - what is the origin, the purpose, the intricacies of it? To delve deep into it is not another desire, for it has no motive; it is like understanding the beauty of a flower, to sit down beside it and look at it. And as you look it begins to reveal itself as it actually is - the extraordinarily delicate colour, the perfume, the petals, the stem and the earth out of which it has grown. So look at this desire and its nature without thought which is always shaping sensations, pleasure and pain, reward and punishment. Then one understands, not verbally, nor intellectually, the whole causation of desire, the root of desire. The very perception of it, the subtle perception of it, that in itself is intelligence. And that intelligence will always act sanely and rationally in dealing with desire. 

You can learn about the limited, but you cannot learn about the unlimited. And we try to learn about the whole field of the psyche, and say that needs time. But time may be an illusion in that area, it may be an enemy. Thought creates the illusion, and that illusion evolves, grows, extends. The illusion of all religious activity must have begun very, very simply, and now look where it is - with immense power, vast properties, great accumulation of art, wealth, and the religious hierarchy demanding obedience, urging you to have more faith. All that is the expansion, the cultivation and the evolution of illusion which has taken many centuries. And the psyche is the whole content of consciousness, is the memory of all things past and dead. We give such importance to memory. The psyche is memory. All tradition is merely the past. We cling to that and want to learn all about it, and think that time is necessary for that as in the other area. I wonder if one ever asks whether time has a stop - time to become, time to fulfill? Is there anything to learn about all that? Or can one see that the whole movement of this illusory memory, which appears so real, can end? If time has a stop, then what is the relationship between that which lies beyond time and all the physical activities of the brain as memory, knowledge, remembrances, experiences? What is the relationship between the two? Knowledge and thought, as we have often said, are limited. The limited cannot possibly have any relationship with the unlimited but the unlimited can have some kind of communication with the limited, though that communication must always be limited, narrow, fragmentary. One might ask, if one is commercially minded, what is the use of all this, what is the use of the unlimited, what can man profit by it? We always want a reward. We live on the principle of punishment and reward, like a dog which has been trained, you reward him when he obeys. And we are almost similar in the sense that we want to be rewarded for our actions, for our obedience and so on. Such demand is born out of the limited brain. The brain is the centre of thought and thought is ever limited under all circumstances. It may invent the extraordinary, theoretical, immeasurable, but its invention is always limited. That is why one has to be completely free from all the travail and toil of life and from self-centered activity for the unlimited to be.  
(JKrishnamurti to Himself)

09 July 2009

The Science Of Sexual Love

Scientific discoveries about the nature and causes of what we call "love" are not exactly secret and have even been the subject of TV documentaries. However, the implications of these discoveries does not appear to have "sunk in" to the general public consciousness. Basically, what the science says is that about six chemical agents, which are manufactured by human bodies when couples get together, create the chemical or drug induced illusion we call love. Those chemicals most mentioned are oxytocin, PEA or phenylethylamine, dopamine and norepinephrine. However, the illusion is not permanent. At some point between about six months to three years, the drug concentrations will fall to an ineffective level. At this point, the couple will no longer be "in love" and will wonder what they ever saw in each
other. The "love drug" levels can be restored by various methods. One can change partners which resets the love drug mechanism for a new cycle. One can have an affair with someone "strange" (i.e., previously unknown) which will briefly give you a high dose of love chemicals.

It appears that the original genetic program was written to promote diversity of offspring. Women would essentially remain pregnant from about twelve years old until about forty years old, assuming they lived that long. But, they would only stay attracted to the same man long enough to have one or two kids and then move on to someone else.

Some social orders apparently plan ahead for this problem. For example, if you were a king with a harem of a hundred or so girls, by the time you got back to girl number one she would seem new so you would be always guaranteed to have a peak level of love drugs. Also, some social orders are designed to exclude the concept of love or any happiness in a relationship such as systems using arranged marriages. These systems consider sex to be some kind of "duty to the state" like George Orwell's classic, "1984". You are "assigned" to a partner you may have no feelings for at all but you must stay together and have kids because it is your duty to the social order. The concept of getting some joy out of life simply does not exist as a factor in the social consciousness of these systems.

This science explains perfectly what we see in real life with respect to the high incidence of people having affairs. No matter how "hot" a partner is there is a time limit as to how long the love drugs can be produced in an exclusive relationship. An affair does not need to be with someone "more hot" - anyone "different" will reset the love drug mechanism. Some cultures recognize this. It is socially acceptable in Japan, for example, for a man to have an occasional affair and it is not unusual for a wife to purchase a night or two with a strange girl for her husband as, say, an anniversary present. It is really money well spent because it will reset the love drug mechanism and bring him a lot more happiness than say, a gold watch or some such.

Because the society in the United States is "sexually challenged" somehow, those who are caught having affairs are seen as simply terrible and generally have their lives totally wrecked, especially if they are high profile people. Unfortunately, it is just stupidity because anyone who looks at the science knows that it is scientifically impossible for love to last forever and to believe that it can is a delusion.

All this brings us to an interesting legal point. Contracts negotiated when a person is in a state of diminished capacity due to the effects of drugs, alcohol or some other mechanism are not valid. A person must be of sound mind to be "contractible". So, when people sign marriage contracts under the influence of the drug induced illusion called love, the contract is technically void.

The science suggests that Plato's concept that all men should belong to all women and all women should belong to all men with the children being the responsibility of the state was close to scientific reality with respect to a system designed for maximum sexual happiness.